What Rhymes with Duck?
Be careful—the first thing that comes to mind might reveal more about your character than you may be willing to admit. For every scar you see, there are likely many more that are hidden from plain view. At some point along the road of life, there was a time when desires overwhelmed reality, and perceptions were no longer valid. The assault on sanity was held in a private celebration where only a select few understood its impact.
The unique sound of a wall clock erupts with clanging symbols at the top of every hour, yet the cries of a broken heart are muffled underneath the laughter of flattery and sensuality. That goddess-like beauty can be spotted miles away as the silhouette of their heavenly body sways in the distance as if in slow motion. The value of starring at them can only be measured at the bank of compromise where billions of transactions take place daily with laser precision.
The mere thought of filling that massive hole in your heart with a spoon seems all too logical for the moment, because the majestic lobby where fantasy is filled with eye candy as far as your eyes can see. Things once held in secret become public in your private vault where delusions of grandeur reign. The absence of commitment, trust, sacrifice and respect no longer exist now that you are in control.
Pop-up windows display young women with a life’s passion to fulfill every outrageous desire you could possible imagine, yet shame, disgust and loneliness will be your only reward. The showroom floor of your heart has been invaded by enemy forces of naked men and women and the images are so overwhelming that every relationship you now have is overlaid with its memory. The value of others is traded in an instant for the prospect of a better model and version of what you already have.
The limitless supply of cash in your world is used to barter women through unspeakable transactions you’ll never hear about in the pulpits of a church. The higher the stakes—the higher the risk, that’s what makes it all so attractive, seductive, secret, even necessary. Frustration has driven you to adopt a policy that since she is “holding out” on you—pornography or masturbation must be an ethical solution? How is it possible for a man or young man to look his wife or girlfriend in the eyes and swear he loves her and would die for her? The answer produces another question, which is best stated, “Would you live for her instead?”
It’s impossible to go anywhere these days without the mass attention of sexual compromise. Don’t kid yourself—hook ups, pornography, and illicit sex has become the one thing in life no one seems to care much about. How many women have found out their husbands or boyfriends are addicted to pornography yet pretend it doesn’t exist? How many women and young girls wear dresses four sizes too small so they will be noticed? You might as well walk through life with a bag over your head because there is always going to be a better version of yourself, a hotter more attractive version, even if for only a moment.
Genuine commitment starts after marital vows are taken between a man and a woman—not after you start taking off your clothes. Don’t kid yourself by thinking you are somehow special and that your boyfriend really loves you and is planning to marry you someday—it’s not going to happen. Why would anyone ever ride the bus when they can drive a Ferrari for nothing?
Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (NIV)
Have you ever thought about how much your secret life impacts your public life? Would you be willing to look into your own heart and take an inventory of everything you see? Maybe the thought of walking up to your heart is similar to an abandoned warehouse in the middle of nowhere, and the memories are too horrific to face alone?
Rest assured—genuine peace will never be experienced under your own terms or reasoning. Pain, letdowns and disappointments are an equal opportunity facilitator. Maybe you’re that person who is convinced that if you stopped having sex with your boyfriend, then they would leave you? Now there’s a test worth taking—just stop today and you’ll know in no uncertain terms your value to your boyfriend.
As the mirror of life passes before you, what would you see if sex outside of marriage were absent from you? Simulation relationships on pornography websites are nothing more than a fraudulent replacement that will never reward you with genuine commitment, trust, or peace. You will never hear a single person in the history of the world present a compelling argument that pornography and transactional sex has made them a better, more committed, trusting person. Start digging around in your life today—what will you find?
Listen—sex addiction and sensual influences in life is a real threat to genuine relationships. You might be under attack right now in your mind and heart, and feel too ashamed to admit it or move forward? I want to give you an opportunity to take a first step toward a new life of freedom regardless of how much it hurts to recognize it. If you are honest and desire truth, then stop running and invite Jesus Christ into your life right now—He is your only hope! Simply admit to Him that you’ve messed up and struggle deeply with sex and need His help and forgiveness, ask Him to be your Lord and Savior and give you a desire to know Him. It’s that simple, but you’re going to need more help and encouragement going forward. Let me know your decision—Be encouraged!
Egypt McKee
Author, Speaker and Pastor
Out of Egypt Ministries
www.OutOfEgypt.com
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